Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, that’s not always the case. There are many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them – quit! You might find your circle of friends grow once you do.

每個(gè)人都試著努力成為一個(gè)更好的人，變得善良、有愛而有同情心。但是對(duì)于有些人，事實(shí)卻不遂人愿。他們身上很多行為或者壞習(xí)慣都使他們沒(méi)吸引力、招人厭，甚至沒(méi)人愿意和他們相處。下文就列出了一系列不招人待見的性格特點(diǎn)，如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己占了幾條，那就趕緊戒了吧！一旦拋棄這些壞習(xí)慣，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)你的朋友又回來(lái)了。

1. You are Self-Absorbed

1.你自私自利自我中心

Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often don’t care what others around you have to say. You think you’re the only one who matters. If this is you, it’s time to change. No one wants to be a friend with someone who only cares about themselves.

這個(gè)毛病很多人都有，而且他們都不自知。你的關(guān)注點(diǎn)永遠(yuǎn)只集中在自己身上，話題總是圍繞著自己，從來(lái)都沒(méi)留意別人在說(shuō)什么。你總以為“我”才是唯一重要的。如果這條中了，那就快改了吧。沒(méi)人想跟一個(gè)只有自我的人做朋友的。

2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring What’s Inside

2.你太注重外表，忽略內(nèi)在

Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isn’t what should matter, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror – deep within yourself – and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.

讓你意外的事實(shí)是：真正的美總是來(lái)自于你的內(nèi)心、身體和靈魂。一個(gè)人的外貌其實(shí)不那么重要，但是你這種膚淺的人卻認(rèn)為外在美就是一切。照照鏡子吧！透過(guò)華麗的外表你也許能看到你的本質(zhì)——一個(gè)內(nèi)在丑陋的人。所以趕快改變這種想法吧。

3. You are Always in Competition

3.你總要和周圍的人比

Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, you’re an unattractive person. You should be more caring towards your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, don’t say, “That’s all? I’ve climbed 30 feet!” Instead say, “Wow! That’s awesome. I’m really proud of you.”

有一種人總想顯得自己比周圍的人更加的優(yōu)秀、見多識(shí)廣、經(jīng)歷豐富，你是這種人嗎？如果是，這也許就是沒(méi)人喜歡你的原因了。你應(yīng)該更多地考慮到周圍朋友的感受，接受他們的杰出與光彩。如果他們克服了恐高情緒爬高了10英尺，你就不該說(shuō)：“就這么點(diǎn)高？我可爬了30尺！”而是應(yīng)該說(shuō)：“哇！你太棒了。我真為你感到驕傲”

4. You View Your Friends as Enemies

4.你把朋友看做敵人

People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, you’re always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies. They are your allies.

有些不受人喜歡的人總是和周圍的朋友起沖突。你沒(méi)有站在你的朋友一邊，也沒(méi)有真正關(guān)心過(guò)他們，反而是轉(zhuǎn)身走開甚至背后捅他們一刀。記住，你的朋友不是你的敵人，而是你的盟友！

5. You Question Your Importance to Others

5.你總是懷疑自己在別人心中的位置

You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you – it doesn’t matter to them – but to you it does. Get over it. They’re still your friend, and their lives don’t stop when you’re not around.

當(dāng)你喋喋不休地質(zhì)疑別人為何不像你想象中那樣重視你的時(shí)候，你真的就太招人厭了。比如你兩個(gè)朋友去哪兒玩而沒(méi)有叫上你，他們覺得沒(méi)有什么，但是你就受不了了。不要那么玻璃心。他們還是你的朋友，他們也不可能因?yàn)槟悴辉诰筒换盍恕?/SPAN>

6. You are the Boss

6.你才是老大

In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If you’re the one always making the decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, you’re acting in an unattractive way.

一個(gè)朋友圈子里每個(gè)人都應(yīng)該是平等的。如果什么都是由著你來(lái)決定，隨時(shí)都要你來(lái)管事，或者總是想控制別人的行為，那別人是不會(huì)對(duì)你有好感的。

7. You are Dishonest

7.你不誠(chéng)實(shí)

When it comes to being a great friend, or someone who others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.

如果你想做一個(gè)合格的好朋友或者想受別人的歡迎，那你一定得誠(chéng)實(shí)。許多行為不端的人都不夠誠(chéng)實(shí)、隨時(shí)在撒謊，他們到處詢問(wèn)每個(gè)問(wèn)到他們的問(wèn)題，或者他們對(duì)不同事物的真實(shí)看法。所以，誠(chéng)實(shí)才是上策。

8. You are Rude

8.你很粗魯

If you’re the person that’s frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public – quit. You’re not someone people want to be around. There are going to be times when you don’t agree with someone, or see something you didn’t want to see, but there’s no point in making a scene, because you’re making everyone look at your terrible behavior and they’re not seeing what you’re seeing.

如果你常常沒(méi)禮貌、冒犯別人或用粗言穢語(yǔ)讓朋友難堪，請(qǐng)改改吧。不然沒(méi)人會(huì)想呆在你的身邊。總有些時(shí)候你不贊同某些人，或者是看到你不想看的情景，但是沒(méi)有必要大鬧一場(chǎng)吧。 別人只會(huì)看到你的粗暴行為，而不能明白你的感受。

9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others

9.你不可靠，卻總想依賴別人

Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If you’re the person no one can count on, that’s an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if you’re the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, that’s another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.

當(dāng)你朋友需要你幫助的時(shí)候，你在場(chǎng)嗎？別人需要你的時(shí)候你是不是總說(shuō)忙、沒(méi)時(shí)間呢？在和別人相處中，無(wú)法值得依靠是一個(gè)非常低劣的品質(zhì)。更甚，如果你從沒(méi)幫助別人，還總是要求他人幫助你，有這種行為的人是沒(méi)有人愿意和你交朋友的。

10. You are Always Negative

10.你總是很消極

Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If you’re constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who’s constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.

悲觀主義可不是一個(gè)吸引人的品質(zhì)。如果你總是在貶低或者總是看到事情消極的一面，試著改變你的態(tài)度吧。沒(méi)人愿意和這種缺乏正能量的人成為朋友。